Why You Keep Explaining Yourself to People Who Never Listen

You explain a normal decision, someone pushes back, and instead of holding your ground, you add another reason. Then another. Then the backstory. Ten minutes later they haven't moved and you've said more than you meant to.

This episode is about why that keeps happening — and why the fix isn't a better explanation. When someone has already decided, more reasons don't create understanding. They read as an invitation to keep arguing, and research on how people build a case shows they can actually make your position sound weaker, not stronger.

You'll hear why we default to explaining harder, what a person who's stopped listening is actually doing with your words, and the shift that changes how these conversations go: asking whether the other person wants to understand or wants you to change, and giving each one exactly what it calls for.


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