The Diary Entry from the Day a 24-Year-Old SF Virgin Met her Husband

Join us as we dive into my wife Simone's diary from 2012, where she recounts our wild first date! From her initial infatuation and nervousness to our strategic dating approaches and instant chemistry, this unfiltered look into Simone's thoughts will give you a glimpse of how our relationship began. We discuss the importance of transparency, confidence, and shared interests in dating, and how our core values and goals have remained consistent over the years. Discover how two methodical, driven individuals found their perfect match and ended up married, despite the odds. Get ready for some cringeworthy yet adorable moments!

Simone Collins: Look, look If only I told myself that I might end the evening making out with this dude I would obviously say I was crazy.

Total braggadocio, this Malcolm, but he's also refreshingly blunt and open. He got involved for a reason. He is exceedingly driven. The term world domination came up a couple of times. God, he's like me, but a year older, male, and not innocent and guileless. So cringe. So he wants to put it before us. In place, a power system that guarantees that his interest in protecting individuality is perpetuated.

, hence the quote, taking over the world, unquote, part of his equation. God, how delicious is that, right? He's cute, he's smart, he's sociopathic, and he's driven, he's future oriented, he's tech oriented, and he's power hungry? SWOON! I still am sorry.

Would you like to know more?

Malcolm Collins: Hello, Simone! So, with your upcoming pregnancy and the lengths it [00:01:00] takes to do the tracked videos, We mean delivery.

Simone Collins: With my upcoming delivery. Delivery, what are you saying? I'm already pregnant. I've been

Malcolm Collins: pregnant. Pregnancy, delivery, yes, you know. We've decided to stop doing those on Fridays for a while and I might, and I was like, okay, what can I do that's like special on Fridays that would be really fun and different?

And what we're going to do is go through At least this day, and we'll see how it does, her diaries from when she first met me, you can call this, we'd actually adapted this into a book at one point but we never ended up publishing it, which was like an annotated version of her diaries from the year she met me as a, what, a 21 year old virgin or whatever.

Simone Collins: It was frankly too cringe, and this is going to be incredibly cringe. Yeah, your

Malcolm Collins: sex quest.

Simone Collins: It was not a sex quest. I was on a quest to fall in love and have my heart broken in one year. And okay, yeah, sex is part of that, but still.

Malcolm Collins: Yeah, I think it's more, yeah, but I hear you. So you, you were this person. So first talk about the quest and then get into your writing, starting with when you met me, I [00:02:00] guess.

Simone Collins: In 2012, I turned, 24 years old. And I decided that in that year, my new year's resolution, the big one would be to fall in love and have my heart broken all in one year, because I intended to live alone forever. I intended to not have any kids, never get married. I really never encountered anyone who I could even stomach the idea of Dating, the idea of someone associating themselves with me, even, even saying that we were dating made me literally sick to my stomach.

So I knew that marriage wasn't for me, obviously, but I still wanted to fall in love and have my heart broken so that I could tell people I tried it and it was massively underwhelming. So hence this goal, I created a very keyword stuffed and optimized. Okay. Cupid profile, just to make sure that I got very qualified leads.

I spammed any guy who might be a potentially interesting match [00:03:00] on. Okay. Cupid, which gives a woman a huge advantage because. Guys never get messages from girls. And I also had a competitive dating game going in my office where we got points for, you know, the number of people we dated, first date, second date, how long the date lasted, all sorts of things to just make this something that encouraged me to get out because dating is terrifying and I didn't actually want to spend time with people, but I needed to achieve my goal.

And it really helped that there were other single people in the office, my age. So yeah, thank God startups don't really have we actually had an HR person who at the same time was part of this whole dating thing.

Malcolm Collins: So, oh my God, I love it. Simone

Simone Collins: initially hired as an interior decorator. So, you know, she probably

Malcolm Collins: didn't know that you shouldn't have competitive dating games where you get points for doing stuff with people in an office.

Fine. Okay. Okay. Now go to the

Simone Collins: Well, so anyway I will, I will get to reading my diaries just for context by this point, it's March, [00:04:00] so I'm three months into my dating journey. I'd been on a bunch of dates at that point. So this is just a point at which I am starting to. encounter some momentum.

So this entry that I'm about to read is me analyzing two previous dates I'd gone on, I think that week, cause I just scored them. I had a scoring system determining if someone was worth a second date. So just for context, cause that's going to seem otherwise really weird. Friday, March 16th, 2012. 10 0 8 p.

m. Yeah, both of those were new high scores. The third highest Dr. Trevor and Francois is Nick with 36. How promising. Just yesterday I was feeling totally dejected on the dating front. Now there's this plus I have more potentials lined up. As of now I have a dinner plus drink state scheduled with one underscore dash M dash underscore of Redwood city for Sunday night.

Plus I'm sussing out plans [00:05:00] with I'm not going to give this person the D head of design at startup. As well as dos underscore toy, AKA not giving his real name a who describes himself in his profile as amazingly good in bed and has a twin.

Malcolm Collins: Okay. So I love the. I'm obviously am here the one person whose name she didn't fully give because she didn't have it yet.

And I find this very interesting because it's different than the way you remembered it. You had remembered being infatuated with me from the first moment you saw my profile. And it's very clear here that she does not become infatuated with me until later. Yeah, I'm

Simone Collins: infatuated with my lead list at this point.

Malcolm Collins: Right. But it also shows how you were handling your leads. You weren't really getting invested in profiles or personas was in these profiles until the guy got back to you, which shows that you really were doing a spamming technique at the time, which is actually pretty impressive for a woman. In terms of the arbitrage game that that allows

Simone Collins: you.[00:06:00]

Yeah, good for me, right? I

Malcolm Collins: Yes, good for you. That's exactly what I'd expected from the type of woman I ended up marrying. I'm a little

Simone Collins: bit proud of myself. Yeah, I don't, I don't tend to remember anything that happens in my past because I don't really care. So it's fun to go through this. All right. March 17th, 2012.

St. Patrick's Day. 1225 PM. So far so good to keep on track. I've opted out of feed catch up on the elliptical that this is when I used to, you know, remember RSS feeds Malcolm anyway and have instead taken the past two hours to make my first donation of the year, 208 via donors choose for math supplies to be used in an Oakland classroom, decide which videos to s