Why Give Our Kids a Backup Religion? & Why Judaism?

We explain the strategic reason we celebrate Jewish holidays and are exposing our kids to Judaism. It's so they have a productive, moral backup culture if they reject our unusual views, not the urban monoculture. We believe multiple conservative religions like Judaism and Mormonism have validity from our "Tesseract God" perspective. Other options lack community today but we aim to build our own.

Simone Collins: [00:00:00] if we want to give our kids the best shot in life it, you know, you want to look at.

Yeah. Religious traditions that have favorable outcomes.

it's doing something quite cruel to a kid to be putting them and raising them in a new cultural group that you have created yourself and raise them feeling like you won't appreciate them if they do anything other than this really insane, weird thing you set up for them.

Malcolm Collins: And a lot of people, when we present our cultural group, they're like, why don't you just go to Our group, right? Like, this is what we constantly hear. They're like, our group is traditional, our group has done this a long time. And the answer is likely, and I don't mean to say this harshly, but it's probably because your group is failing.

Would you like to know more?

Malcolm Collins: Hello, Simone. Today, we are going to talk about a fairly interesting and nuanced topic. Yeah. Which is this year, one of the things we did is we celebrated Hanukkah as a family for the first time. Yeah. And a lot of people are really [00:01:00] surprised by the fact that we raise our kids with the option to be Jewish.

And they're like, what, why would you do that? We're like, why would you think you'd be accepted? Like, this is a weird thing to do. Especially given all of your religious beliefs. So this requires much enumeration on our part. At the end of this video, I'll play the little, you know, menorah lighting with the kids and everything.

They were really into it this year. Yeah, I'm

Simone Collins: sure we did it extremely wrong, but I will say that our oldest son, Octavian, got super into it. And we don't know how, like we let them watch. Stuff on their iPads for like a little bit every night. Well, not an iPad. It's actually really cheap Android devices, but they don't know

Malcolm Collins: the difference.

We call them iPads. They don't know the difference.

Simone Collins: Well, no, Torsten calls them his hot puss. Thank you very much. Hot puss.

Malcolm Collins: Oh

Simone Collins: gosh. They're under a hundred dollars. Somehow, and we don't know how our son Octavian like found a bunch of, and he's, Four years old videos on YouTube about Hanukkah for kids.

And [00:02:00] he just was like watching them on repeat. And then each night he was like, Oh, like let's, let's do it. Let's learn. Let's light the menorah. And then like, after it was over. There were like at least three nights of great disappointment when there were no more candles to light.

Malcolm Collins: We didn't even do presents or anything.

We just did the readings. No, yeah. No, yeah. He'd always say after a reading, he'd go, Mom, what does that

Simone Collins: even mean? What does that even mean? Every time I would finish, I would finish part of like the recital. Like both the kids would be like, yeah. Like after each, you know, like. You know, so, you know, the Lord encourages us to like light the menorah and the Lord performed these miracles and they're like, yeah, but they have no idea, no idea what it actually meant.

But anyway, so like they were actually

Malcolm Collins: really into it. Why are we doing this? Right. Like, like one is. So there's there's sort of two large strategic reasons for doing this. We believe really heavily that one of the big problems with a lot of conservative [00:03:00] tradition families today is that they raise their kids believing.

That the, the alternative to following the culture that they are outlining for the kids is the urban monoculture. The only and default alternative. Whereas we are trying to raise our kids with a choice between two conservative extremes. where they feel that the alternative in the way that they are raised to be sort of intergenerational in the way they think about things is going to be the Jewish community.

So one is why do we think we'd be accepted by that community in terms of how we do this? Well, the answer is actually pretty Interesting and unique to us, and I've mentioned this on other things, is that we found out, I, well, maybe a bit before we first met each other, but I certainly didn't know it until after we were dating, is that Simone is matrilineally Jewish, and within conservative Jewish communities, that makes her And our [00:04:00] kids, so I would say technically Jewish, whereas to them it's just fully Jewish.

Simone Collins: Yeah, whenever we say to like at least some Jewish people that like, oh yeah, we're technically Jewish, they're like, what do you mean? And then we're like, well, yeah, our kids are matrilineally Jewish. And they're like, no, no, no. So they're Jewish. And we're like, I mean. Like

Malcolm Collins: we, I don't feel like cheating if you're from any other cultural group.

Yeah. It goes to

Simone Collins: also, we did not know until like maybe a couple of years ago and no, like two years ago. Yeah. A couple of years ago that, that literally like that was the requirement. We thought that there were, we heard, you know, about like, you know, people trying to convert your, your sister tried to convert, you know, turned away multiple times, like a ton of like studying and work.

And so we're like, well, okay. So, I mean, to be Jewish, then you have to put in. A ton of work and at least like even for like non hard to convert to religions, good religions that like if we, you know, in 30 seconds wanted to convert, we could be welcomed with open arms. You're still really not [00:05:00] considered that, like a part of that religion, unless you're like leaning into it, you identify with it, you signal, you go to church, you know, or at least you say certain things and we hadn't done any of that.

So it felt really weird and it's a very weird technicality. But

Malcolm Collins: it's also like an option to us. So when we are raising kids within our weird religion and cultural framework, if we are preventing, or if we are presenting one other backup for them to turn to, other than our weird version of Christianity, you know, what is that backup going to be?

And a lot of people, when we present our cultural group, they're like, why don't you just go to Our group, right? Like, this is what we constantly hear. They're like, our group is traditional, our group has done this a long time. And the answer is likely, and I don't mean to say this harshly, but it's probably because your group is failing.

If I could choose what cultural group my kids go in, and Jew is an option let's just [00:06:00] like, look at what the other alternatives are.

Now, before we go into this, it's important to remember that we are not arguing against the truth of these religious systems. We believe that every one of the religious systems, I mean, this is why we are considering them, is true from the perspective of a Tesseract God. But, and this is a concept we go into in another video, where we believe that trying to follow the conservative revelation of specific Judeo

Christian.

religious traditions, which are direct revelations from God, is God's will for certain groups of people.

So when we're choosing between these traditions, what we are choosin