Rerelease | Plum & The Victim-Playing Narcissistic Mother

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Plum shares the story of growing up with a neglectful, victim-playing narcissistic mother who made her feel responsible for herself from an early age. As Plum became more independent, her mother’s behavior shifted, using guilt, illness, broken promises, and carefully manufactured crises to maintain control. Years later, Plum married a controlling man whose gaslighting, silent treatments, sexual coercion, and escalating physical abuse forced her to recognize the patterns she had been conditioned to accept. In understanding that her husband’s behavior was intentional, Plum also began to see the truth about her mother, the difference between closeness and enmeshment, and the generational trauma connecting both abusive relationships.