Savage Lovecast Episode 1034

Any military lawyers in the house? A gay man and his boyfriend, both serving active duty, want to open their relationship. But infidelity is forbidden by military law. How risky would this be? Now that chastity play its all the rage, should we assume that a key necklace means something deeply kinky? And if so, should we knowingly wink when we see one? Sex/science nerds rejoice! Our Magnum guest this week is Distinguished Research Professor Dr. Lixing Sun, who wrote On the Origin of Sex. Dan and Dr. Sun discuss the deep biological underpinnings of sex: when and why did pleasure emerge in reproduction? Why hasn't homosexuality been selected against? And why don't we just reproduce like sponges? And, a woman no longer drinks, but her boyfriend still does. When he comes home reeking of beer and cigarettes, she feels repulsed by him. How can she explain that drinking a pitcher and getting laid that night are now mutually exclusive events? This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/SAVAGE⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Arya- an intimacy membership with a personal intimacy concierge to help you and your partner bring true excitement back into your sex life. Right now, Arya is offering listeners $10 off your first month at ⁠GetArya.com/Savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.