472. What ACTUALLY makes people compatible?

Is a 'spark' all that it takes to be compatible in the long-term? What about sharing the same interests, personality or sense of humour? Or is it something more deep and intangible? In today’s episode, we explore what ACTUALLY makes two people right for each other, and why the things that draw us together aren’t always the things that keep us together.

Watch on Netflix: HERE

We discuss:

• Chemistry versus long-term compatibility

• Why shared values matter more than shared hobbies

• The importance of feeling understood, appreciated and responded to (i.e the Gottman's theory of responsiveness)

• How the belief in soulmates can shape your relationship

• The Four Horsemen that erode connection

• What an argument can reveal about your future together

Whether you’re dating someone new or reflecting on a long-term relationship, this episode explores what it means to build a love that lasts, through change, conflict and the thousands of little choices we make along the way.

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