299. Why The Word "Help" Is So Triggering For So Many Couples

It is amazing how certain words can be so triggering for some spouses and the word "help" is one of these words that can have good intentions, but can also be very triggering. For example, when one spouse says, "How can I help?" it may unintentionally create a hierarchy where one spouse is the "manager" and the other the "assistant." When a spouse offers to "help" with something like dishes, laundry, or managing the kids, it seems like a thoughtful, kind gesture on the surface. However...